We maintain our cars, bodies, houses, gardens, tools, gear and even careers.
But if I say you must also inspect and maintain your marriage, what do you think? “I have to take her out for a meal” “I need to get some more attractive sleep clothes” “I could be nicer to my partner”. Many of us will holler “I already cook for her/let him go camping/clean the house/ bring home the paycheck!” This is comparable to saying “I already put gas in the car, what more do you expect me to do?!”
We don’t set out for California without a thorough car inspection and routine maintenance or needed repairs, and we shouldn’t assume that our relationship can go the distance without the same kind of attention.This may be why some of us have cars that last longer than our relationships.
Happy marriage is real. You can have one, even if the one you’re in is broken down. Most good marriages can become great and even a great many marriages that feel like ‘bad’ marriage can become better then you can imagine. You must be willing to invest time, thought and attention in your marriage, if you want it to work well.